For me, the fact that Americans are in pain is not wisely or
effectively addressed either by wallowing in our pain or by scoffing at
it. Here is where two opposite truths are equally valid. We are in
pain-horrible emotional and spiritual angst, AND what is stopping us
from looking at what have we done to create the conditions that now
torture us and leave us tossing and turning in our Select Comfort air
beds? What seductions did we settle for decades ago-or yesterday, that
have brought us to the pain we now experience? How are the choices of
more recent years that we have blindly condoned because we were so busy
being snookered into using our houses as ATM machines that we couldn't
look truthfully at the regime hoodwinking us into the Iraq War-how are
those choices impacting our daily lives emotionally, spiritually, and
yes, physically as our bodies silently seethe with the horrors of war
crimes that our government has perpetrated on the innocent? Just
because the carnage is not aired nightly on prime-time TV as it was
during the Vietnam Era does not mean that something in the collective
unconscious of Americans and all earthlings is not writhing in a kind
of mass PTSD, an assertion which Pablo Ouziel brilliantly articulates
in "
Iraq, The Unavoidable Global Trauma."
The American dream has become the American nightmare of debt, stolen
pensions, the inability to retire securely, the poisoning of food,
water, air, energy depletion, inflation, healthcare so poor that
doesn't even deserve to be called by that name, media and educational
systems functioning only to dumb-down the masses. Every institution in
American society serves one purpose and one purpose only: to protect
the wealthy and to numb and sedate everyone else.
Like
pre-World War II Germans who refused to investigate what was actually
going on within their country and across Europe as a result of Hitler's
atrocities, our "innocence" is killing us-eating away at our insides
and our emotional well being. We are in pain.
As Americans
find themselves mired in ghastly swamps of debt, foreclosure,
unemployment, and the crumbling of every institution in American
society-as they tell themselves that this is just a blip on the radar
screen and that if they just work harder, get a better job, cut back
here and there, move to the Sun Belt, or postpone having a child,
everything will be just fine. We are in pain.
As governments
rattle sabers, spend unprecedented amounts for weapons of mass
destruction, and as our rulers declare with straight faces that we can
and must carry out first-strike nuclear attacks on anyone who rattles
more loudly than we do, images of mushroom clouds quietly form in
places within the psyche that we do not let ourselves know about, and
we eat more, drink more, exercise more, fornicate more, work more,
gamble more, clean more, smoke more, and shop more. We are in pain.
And of course, American readers of these words would want to know
immediately "what to do about it." But as an historian, I keep
repeating that until you understand how you arrived at where you are,
you won't be able to proceed elsewhere. The "doing obsession" is yet
another addiction which we would do well to recover from as quickly as
possible. As I stated clearly in my article written a few weeks ago
entitled "
What To Do? What To Do?"
the first step in our recovery is being willing to be, yes BE with the
pain we are feeling or sense is impairing our health and wellness.
One of the best "prescriptions" I've run across is that which Sally
Erickson, producer of "What A Way To Go: Life At The End Of Empire"
states in her blog "
Depression Is A White Peoples' Disease":
It's the disease the civilized have learned to contract in the face of
feelings we are afraid to feel. So we don't. We depress the real,
legitimate feelings of sadness and grief, anger and outrage, fear and
loneliness. And yet, these feelings are natural, healthy responses to
our current human and planetary predicament. When we do not identify
and express, and instead "depress," these feelings, the end result is
the emotional fog and lethargy that people routinely label
"depression."
Erickson recounts her experience of producing
with Tim Bennett their extraordinary documentary and the overload she
felt as a result of trying to assimilate voluminous information
regarding energy depletion, climate change, population overshoot, and
die-off and the depression into which she sometimes slipped-and her
discovery that talking with trusted others about her feelings was her
best medicine. "Piece by piece," she says, "Tim and I work our way
through the myriad of emotions that come with staring down the world
situation. As we dig into ourselves, always beneath what might have
been termed ‘depression,' we find feelings. We discover that when we
identify and express those feelings, the emotional grey goo of
depression eventually dissipates. And along the way we discover strong
and courageous parts of ourselves that have been dormant."
I
would not pretend to claim that simply talking about one's feelings
will cure insomnia, depression, or the body's aches and pains, but I do
not hesitate to suggest that some or much of our pain could be
alleviated by owning what is so and talking about that with all who
will listen and validate us.
Perhaps the most predominant
emotion Americans experience is fear-fear greatly fostered by our
government and its propagandistic obsession with "the war on terror."
Without consciously realizing it, many Americans are walking around
terrified of something that may never happen. We live our lives with
comforts incomparable with the day-to-day existence of most of the
world's population. For the most part we have clean water to drink,
food to eat, and shelter to live in. While violence, assault, rape, and
robbery are prevalent in many parts of our nation, they are not
institutionalized as they are in some countries. Compared with most
societies on earth, we live a relatively safe existence, yet we walk
around in terror. Perhaps it really isn't terror
ism that we
fear, but rather that some part of us knows that dozens of species have
gone extinct while we've been reading this article, that all of our
cherished institutions along with our infrastructure are crumbling,
that polar ice caps are melting, and sea levels are rising, that the
war in Iraq and the so-called war on terror will never end in our
lifetimes, that our children's futures are fraught with landmines of
debt, pollution, violence, and nuclear madness.
In my
opinion, the most sane and rational act under these circumstances is
talking in detail with our friends and loved ones about our feelings
and experiencing that while that doesn't "solve" the problems, it
releases enormous energy that we were investing in denial and numbness
and empowers us to explore and choose our options. Yes, we all know
people who refuse to go where anyone who has read this far must
certainly have already gone. We can and do feel compassion for them,
yet there are those who will listen. So find them-and talk-and listen
because we are all in pain, and deep listening and truth-telling are
our best medicine.